4 Body Language Poses That Are Hurting Your Success (And 2 That Help)

Message From Governor Jackie


4 Body Language Poses That Are Hurting Your Success (And 2 That Help)


Did you know that the way you stand, the position of your hands and even how you hold your head could be hurting you when you speak?


Here are four body language poses and gestures to avoid and two of what to do instead.


1. Tilting your head. You may slightly tip your head to one side when listening intently to someone, but this gesture can make you appear either confused or as though you agree with the person when you are simply considering the message. Avoid tilting your head. Instead, keep your chin parallel to the ground and maintain good eye contact, which indicates that you are an intelligent, decisive person who understands what is being said. To acknowledge that you're listening, slightly nod your head.

2. Speaking fast. In addition to making your message hard to follow, speedy speech may make you appear insecure and nervous. Talking fast also results in shallow breathing, which makes you look harried. Concentrate on deep, even breathing, which will slow down your speech and make you appear controlled and confident.

3. Crossed ankles while standing. How you arrange your legs when you stand has a profound effect on your demeanor and confidence level. Crossing your ankles might be more comfortable, but it sends out a message that you are timid and unimportant. Strike a strong, confident pose instead by standing with your legs apart and your back straight. This will make you appear and feel successful.

4. "Fig leaf" pose. Another stance to avoid when standing involves folding your hands and letting them hang in front of your body. This pose gives the impression that you are insignificant and what you have to say is inconsequential. Exude confidence by letting your arms hang to your sides or keeping them bent and lightly clasping your hands together with your forearms parallel to the ground.

5. Maintain good eye contact. Sufficient direct eye contact is important, but don't overdo it. It's not necessary or advisable to keep your eyes glued to the other person. Doing this can make a person feel uncomfortable and uneasy, which is not what you're trying to accomplish. Instead strike a comfortable balance by alternating between meeting the person's eyes and looking away.

6. Smile. Never underestimate the power of an honest smile. It displays confidence and pleasure with your business. A smile also makes you appear friendly and approachable and gives the impression that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make them happy.


Governor Jackie